Fairies, Fluff and Parenting

Janet here. We are hunkered down here in eastern Texas in an ultra small town called Crystal Beach.  We took a ferry over from Galveston, with Jack and all while seeing dolphins frolic behind us:

There is nothing much here but an empty beach that goes on for miles around the Gulf of Mexico but positive noticeable evidence that the economy if flourishing after hurricane Ike a few years back.  The general area is not very attractive, as all the houses need to be on tall stilts mostly made of wood.  Here is one that is wheelchair accessible:

Not my kind of place to live…I’m just sayin’.  But good for a few nights of rejuvenation, housekeeping, beach strolls and yoga and a bath for Jack, we were ready for more exploring.

We had a great time visiting Hueco Tanks, a well sought bouldering mecca outside of El Paso.  We went on a tour of the ancient pictographs, but mostly we just wanted to climb as there are so many cool nooks, crannies and caves:

On to Carlsbad Caverns.  We missed the bats at the Caverns but it was awe-inspiring all the same:

I don’t know about you, but I am constantly evaluating and reevaluation my parenting skills.  When your elders said that it was the hardest job that they have ever had, they were not kidding!  Along this journey, the girls have spent endless hours on their fairy houses.  You know, sort of like the tooth fairy but the girls each have their own “personal” fairy that visits them and leaves notes of esteem-building and confidence along with fairy secrets.

It is so fun to see them share their “homes” with our visitors that we meet along the way (young and old).  I am telling you, there is nothing these fairies lack including a wardrobe that any girl would desire, swings, chairs, beds, lights, mini-books, baths, gardens, and now they are working on a fairy sized sail boat.  Brian and I for some time thought this was getting a little out of hand but have altered our views about it.  Take for example the sailboat; after a sail with some friends in Kemah, Tess went online and found herself a diagram that she has since transformed into her fairy world as well as into a chapter book that she is writing about a mouse on an adventure for friends.  Stay tuned as she wants this one published! Another gem of learning came from designing clothes which has fostered a love of fashion.  Ava took to sewing and has transformed one of her dresses by adding embellishments galore.  She has learned to write very detailed and grammatically correct letters to her fairy.


So the parenting continues (duh!) and I just hope that we are doing things at least along the line of “right”.  Is there a right?  My recent view is changing to the fact that it is comforting to know that they are getting what they need instead of being force-fed a curriculum that may not fit their interests.  Let me take this into a BIGGER picture.  I wish for my children and yours that of a prosperous, happy life.  If the world continues as it is to outsourcing robotic humans, we are done.  As Americans, I see our future in our continued creativity and we need to foster that in our kids instead of a state, test driven school system.   I hope that more people notice what is wrong with our current system and don’t put a band-aid on it, but TRANSFORM it.  Easier said than done, I realize.  I, right now, can do my little part with my kids and encourage others to agree and foster change.  Just sayin’…as I rant and rave.

I am always encouraged to find folks so kind.  Here is a second grade class we went on a tour with at Hueco Tanks:

These sweet girls we met at a local church and spent the afternoon at Kemah, TX riding the Bullet rollercoaster:

I want to now take this moment to thank all of you for your friendship and support for our family.  I hope you find many things to be grateful for as we creep up on Thanksgiving Day.  The Creasy’s will be celebrating with some friends in New Orleans with rock-n-bowl after to sweat the calories off.  Gobble gobble and all that good stuff. UGH, what will a vegetarian do if they feed me a turkey?  OK, I will eat it only if it was a “happy” turkey.  Michele, you know what I mean! 🙂


6 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Karen N. on November 21, 2010 at 12:35 am

    Fun to see pics of where I grew up – near Galveston on the coast- Freeport. Carlsbad is really cool! I was born in Roswell…Thanks for the adventures through your eyes. Karen


  2. Posted by Karen Molinari on November 21, 2010 at 4:58 am

    Janet- Love reading your posts! Not only are you and Brian doing it “right”, most importantly you’re doing it “right” by your kids, by following your intuition, by actaully spending time with your kids sharing your values, being present and building lifelong memories and experiences richer than any classroom can offer. Amazing! Incredible! Awe-inspiring! I see a book from this experience (no pressue 🙂 And I love how you got and shared the importance of your daughter’s fairy worlds. My inner traveler, want to be WITH my kids persona is gaining momentum from you sharing your journey. xoxoxo, Karen

    p.s. Check out Hand-in-Hand parenting (www.handinhandparenting.com) and friend on Facebook be/c they have great posts right up your alley on this journey. Their whole focus is on connecting with your children, spending time in their world so they can feel comfortable and function in the world.
    When do you return to Portland? And will you be passing through the Bay Area at all? Would love to see you guys. You’re welcome to stay anytime!


  3. Hi Janet & Family,

    Happy Thanksgiving! (Tofurkey is really good Janet for your Vegan enjoyment!)


  4. Posted by Ellen Beans on November 24, 2010 at 6:09 am

    Hey Janet, Just re-discovered the bookmark I had made to your site, and so got to catch up with you a bit. Loved the photos. That house on stilts – oh my, how high off the land, and not very pretty! I was very interested in your girls’ love of fairies right now. Do you know that Jessica feed the fairies on the nights of the full moon for quite a while? – and that she got beautiful “jewels” each time? How she treasured these. She also built little places for the fairies at this moon time, though not as fancy and elaborate as you described. I think she was about your girls’ ages when this was important to her. Nurturing this imaginative part in your girls is such a gift and blessing to them – it is that part that doesn’t thrive or get nurtured in our very mental, rational, rush rush society – and is a quality that is going to be critical for survival, I think – to be able to get in touch with other realms, to be able to think outside the box.

    We’re heading up to Auburn for T. Day. Haven’t been up there for this holiday in 13 years, Diana discovered!! Love to you all, Ellen


  5. Posted by Stanley Allen on November 26, 2010 at 6:19 pm

    Janet & Brian:

    So good to see the pix of the kids together! Thanks for sending them to our girls, they loved seeing them.

    Be safe and warm!



  6. Posted by Tania Hunter on January 26, 2011 at 1:15 am

    I finally took the time to sit down and read your blog- from start to finish… or rather, from finish to start. 🙂
    So enjoyed reading it- the good, the bad, the vomit, all of it. I was struck by your girls’ commitment to their fairies; when the kids and I moved into our tiny house last March, they were delighted to find that it sat in an enchanted garden and came with a fairy who writes notes and leaves surprises for them. Bella has a scrapbook of correspondence between her and the fairy, and made a lovely house for her, as well.
    Wishing your family all the best.


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